Friday, June 29, 2012

Funny Things

It is funny how when you are pregnant, people tell you that once you have your child, everyone and their mother will tell you either how to raise the baby or what you are doing wrong.That is so true, but even the people who tell you that tell you what you're doing wrong or what you should do. Giving advice is one thing, making people feel like they are doing a horrible job is another.People for the most part are not stupid so they can tell when they are being talked down to. I'll admit I may not agree with the different ways some people may take care of their children, but it isn't my place to make them feel bad for it because they raise their kids in a different way then I raise mine.

One example, Riley slept in my bed with me from birth till he was about 6-7 months. Holy crap, did I ever hear it from other people. Anything ranging from they need to learn independence, to you are going to kill him and crush him in your sleep. Seriously? For one thing, it's my decision where I want him to sleep, I always knew where he was, so I was not worried about crushing him, and independence when he is 6-7 months old?! I think not. He is 18 months old now, been sleeping in his crib, alone, for more then half his life, he is fine! That brings me onto another thing.

Some people when they put their kids down for a nap, they just put them in their crib and either their child falls asleep or cries until they fall asleep. Nothing wrong with that at all. ME? I don't do that. I take him down for nap time and bed time, have some milk and rock with him till he falls asleep. Now I know some "experts" say that they need to learn to fall asleep on their own. Well, I've also done it the other way too and Riley can fall asleep fine, so why should I be forced to give up my bonding tie with my son so he can scream and be miserable before nap or bed time? I don't see anything wrong with it, but I can guarantee someone will.


  1. i love this. I have my babies sleep with me until they are at least 6 months old. It's easier for me when they want a middle of the night bottle or just to make me feel safe. They were in our stomachs for 9 months, it's a harsh reality to both mom and baby to be stripped of that closeness. Babies aren't bandaids for crying out loud. Great post!

  2. I agree, and I loved sleeping with Riley when he was so little, it was our time!