Funny Things

It is funny how when you are pregnant, people tell you that once you have your child, everyone and their mother will tell you either how to raise the baby or what you are doing wrong.That is so true, but even the people who tell you that tell you what you're doing wrong or what you should do. Giving advice is one thing, making people feel like they are doing a horrible job is another.People for the most part are not stupid so they can tell when they are being talked down to. I'll admit I may not agree with the different ways some people may take care of their children, but it isn't my place to make them feel bad for it because they raise their kids in a different way then I raise mine.

One example, Riley slept in my bed with me from birth till he was about 6-7 months. Holy crap, did I ever hear it from other people. Anything ranging from they need to learn independence, to you are going to kill him and crush him in your sleep. Seriously? For one thing, it's my decision where I want him to sleep, I always knew where he was, so I was not worried about crushing him, and independence when he is 6-7 months old?! I think not. He is 18 months old now, been sleeping in his crib, alone, for more then half his life, he is fine! That brings me onto another thing.

Some people when they put their kids down for a nap, they just put them in their crib and either their child falls asleep or cries until they fall asleep. Nothing wrong with that at all. ME? I don't do that. I take him down for nap time and bed time, have some milk and rock with him till he falls asleep. Now I know some "experts" say that they need to learn to fall asleep on their own. Well, I've also done it the other way too and Riley can fall asleep fine, so why should I be forced to give up my bonding tie with my son so he can scream and be miserable before nap or bed time? I don't see anything wrong with it, but I can guarantee someone will.

Birthday

Well, today is my 29th birthday. Not a special birthday, just another ordinary birthday. Next year I guess it a big one, the big 3-0. One thing about birthdays is that they make you reflect on your life. Am I where I thought I'd be at 29? That's a big no, but honestly, where did I think I would be. I know I wanted to have children before I was 30, well I have Riley, I also wanted to married, I kind of skipped that one. Usually its marriage then babies. Oops!

Career wise, I'm definitely not where I'd thought I be. I'm a cashier at Target, not what I went to school for, and even though I have a Bachelors, I'm not even going to use it. But with that said, I am thinking about going back to school once again. I am gonna get my Associates in Web Graphic Design I think. I love doing web graphics, book covers (obviously) and web pages, so I think this is the best option. Hopefully one day I can stay at home and work and be with Riley.

We shall see what the future holds, I'm happy just to be able to have another birthday.

One more thing, my bestie (sister) Lauren bought me this for my birthday!

Ashley Redbird...Writer?

So, if you read before I am struggling with what I want to do with my life. Ideally I'd love to stay at home with Riley, but being a single mom doesn't allow me that luxury. A friend of mine encouraged me to write. I always have so many ideas in my head, but when it comes to writing I am very much ADD with it. I am by n means a writer, I summarize everything I write. I remember when I was in college, every 5 weeks we had to write a 8 page paper, my classes only lasted 5 weeks at a time, so you think by the end of my few years there I'd have writing an 8 page paper down. Nope, I don't think I ever got to a full 8 pages. I have ideas, I just don't know how to express them or how to expand on them to make them longer. So, that is what I thought when Lauren told me to write. But since I have no idea what the heck I want to do, I thought, what the hell? My good author friend, Berinn, told me to just write. She said it took her a year to write her first story. Oi, that's a long time. But if I just keep writing, I will at least get my ideas out and who knows what will come form that?! I still want to make book covers for authors too, so I hope I can do more of those soon as well. Wish me luck!!!